I have some questions

I keep seeing this image, or versions of it, pop up on Twitter and Facebook, especially in trauma-informed education circles. “Students who are loved come to school to learn, and students who aren’t, come to school to be loved.”

I know it’s “just a quote.” I know it’s well-intentioned. But I have some questions.

• Don’t all students want to learn? Aren’t all kids naturally curious?

• Don’t all kids (and people, really) want to be loved?

• Does this quote suggest that a teacher’s love and a parent’s love are the same thing?

• Do kids have a choice about why (or whether) they come to school?

• Are there really a whole lot of parents who don’t love their kids?

• What effect does it have on my teaching practice if I believe my students’ parents don’t love them?

• How does one tell the difference between a parent who doesn’t love their kids and a parent who loves their kid, but is overwhelmed or under-resourced and struggles to effectively parent?

• How does one tell the difference between a kid who is loved at home and who isn’t?

• Do loved kids always want to learn?

• Should I lower my academic expectations for “unloved” kids because they’re just here to be loved?

• Does trauma only happen to kids in “unloving” households?

• Does being loved at home affect motivation for learning?

• What am I, a teacher, supposed to do with this frame of understanding? How does it impact my practice?

• What would my students’ parents think if they saw me tweet or post this quote?

• Does this quote foster empathy or pity?

I hope you have some questions, too.

It’s “just a quote” but when we see enough of these quotes, they shape our worldview. Just like we teach our students: be critical. Ask questions. Don’t fall for pleasing sentence construction and confuse it with truth.